FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS.


SO, WHAT'S YOUR NAME?
Taylor.

My first name is Becca (ReBecca if we're really getting technical up in here). I've gone by Taylor for most (all) of my adult life. It just kind of happened. It's my middle name ---- well, it was my maiden name, but I didn't have a middle name so when I got married, it got upgraded to my middle name. Argh! See, this gets confusing. I don't really care what you call me. I'll run into some people and they'll say, "I just can't call you Taylor! You’ll always be Becca to me." To them, I say, “Cheers!”

I don't care.
If you feel the need to call me Becca, that is just fine.
But my name is Taylor. 


HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN MARRIED?
We got married on April Fools Day (appropriate, no?) in 2005. It was actually on accident. We changed our date like four times, and finally just settled on "the first Friday in April"...


WHAT DOES YOUR HUSBAND DO? 
That handsome guy of mine is a Kinesiologist by trade. He got his Masters in Kinesiology, emphasizing in Sports Psychology. He is passionate about helping others make their dreams come true by ruling the world with positive-ness-ing... or something really close to that description.

He is a consultant extraordinaire. 


WHAT DO YOU DO?
I got my Associates in Behavioral Science, with an emphasis in Psychology. Then, I studied Social Work and got my minor in both Sociology and Psychology for my Bachelors. Blah blah blah: what do I do? I'm a Mom, and I love wrangling my little people and making sure we are all alive at the end of the day. I also love humanitarian work and am constantly working on projects with other human-loving-folk.

I also like to eat so much chocolate. Like, so, so, so much. Chocolate.


HOW MANY KIDS DO YOU HAVE? WHO IS WALT?
Depends on the day you ask me.
Ha.

Today, we have four little boys and one little baby girl that reigns over us with her blonde curls.

Walt was born premature when my water broke three months early; he is still a huge part of our family and we search for him on the daily. You can see him in the #sunglaresfromheaven on instagram. He still likes to come and party with us every now and again.


HOW OLD ARE YOUR KIDS?
Right now my boys are 7, 5, and 3. Our baby girl is 11 months old.
Next month they will be 7.5, 6, 3.5 and 1.
Time is a complicated thing.


WHY DID YOU ADOPT?
This is how our family is being made whole, really. I don't know how else to explain it. 

If you want a longer answer: I have had a lot of infertility issues over the years. I have been pregnant 12 times, with plenty of intervention, bedrest, injections, infusions, transfusions, drugs, monitors, test, etc. My body just doesn't quite understand what it's supposed to do; it essentially just shuts down. We were told we could not have any more children after Walt was born (I flat lined twice and had to have two blood transfusions). So, it was a no brainer: adoption. 

When I found out I was pregnant with Rhette, our doctors immediately asked us to abort because of how dangerous it became right away. In fact, at my appointment this week, my new doctor looked at my rap sheet and proclaimed, "How on earth did your body survive? How did you have term babies?" And that's it. I don't know. They don't know.  I don't know how we got the ones we did. 

All of our children are miracles. Adoption has never felt like a consolation prize or an unfortunate event that we've had to endure. We have felt incredibly blessed to have each of our children in our home, and through the miracle of adoption that has continued to happen.


ARE YOU GOING TO ADOPT AGAIN?
Yes! We hope so. 

We are currently getting certified to be foster-adopt parents.


WHY DID/DIDN'T YOU ADOPT INTERNATIONALLY/DOMESTICALLY/THROUGH FOSTER CARE?
I know a lot of people have a lot of strong options on all adoption fronts. Here’s my deal:

Grif was adopted through infant domestic adoption. We love his birth family, and really love our open adoption! As we were trying to decide what avenue to pursue after his adoption was finalized, we landed on international adoption. We had started our home study to adopt from Ethiopia, two months before we found out we were pregnant with Rhette (in 2013). Obviously, our plans were put on hold, as we figured out what our next steps would be. 

Now that we are on the other side of all that, we have felt more drawn to pursuing adopting in the U.S. once again. I could write a book about how/why we decided to change our direction, from international to domestic, and from domestic infant to foster-adopt, but it mainly comes down to ethics and where we thought our family needed to go. Tada!


HOW MUCH DID YOUR KID(S) COST?
Guys. I get this question all the time. I'm just going to say it: it's so not ok. The only exception to this rule is if you're seriously considering adoption yourself, and you feel inundated by all the information that's being thrown at you and you want to talk about adoption expenses; I am more than happy to privately chat with you about the different types of expenses you would come across. Our first adoption was contested, and we had to deal with ICWA issues, so things got a little out of control---I get it. But my kids weren't for sale! Any of them! The same way I wouldn't ask how much money is in your bank account, what your tax return was, how much your c-section was... see, kind of not-ok? 


WHERE ARE YOU FROM?
Well... I was born in Utah. I lived there until I was five. Then to Virginia until I was nine. Then back to Utah until I was sixteen. Then I became a vagabond college student and moved back and forth from California to Hawaii. Then got married and pretty much did that same circuit all over again. A couple times.

J, Hugh, and Rhette were born in Hawaii. 
Walt was born in California.
Grif was born in Georgia---when we were living in California.


WHERE ARE YOU LIVING NOW?
We just moved to North Carolina in 2014, and plan on living here for about 2 years, before we move abroad.


WHERE ARE YOU MOVING NEXT?
Oh man. 

When we first moved here, the plan was Italy. Right now the new plan is Nicaragua.